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Author: melvaughn Subject: Would a Man be able to tell if a woman is a virgin or not??

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posted on 02-05-2005 at 21:41 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Would a Man be able to tell if a woman is a virgin or not??

I was wondering If Men are able to tell if a woman i a virgin or not?? I heard someone say, "yeah we can tell, by the way her pussy lips are streched." Is that true?

Just a thought....
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posted on 02-06-2005 at 23:07 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator

The scary thing is.....NO!....alot of men and women lie about being virgins...I personally am not above making someone take a lie detector test.... you may think that is extreme but consider this- There was a girl I knew in high school that got around more than anyone else in school that I know of (she had sex with around thirty men at the time now it is more) yet she told her first husband (from out of town) that she was a virgin!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is soooo wrong! The last time I talked with her sister, she was already cheating on her second husband before she was married to him. She is not the only one who lies about that either! Lots of other women try that same tactic. It is very sad that we can't trust everything that people tell us, but that is the world we live in.
I am a 27 year old virgin and I only date virgins and time proven born again virgins that have been abstinent at least two years.
There is even a surgery to restore the hymen. A lie detector is the only half way decent test I know of. I know that is extreme but I know how some women lie about this. I don't ever want to wake up next to a wife that I later find out was a huge slut that didn't want to marry someone like herself.
I guess what I'm saying is this a very sensitive issue both ways....Some women have been raped or molested, or just had their hymen broke while riding horses or just hard exercise. All of these women are still virgins, no doubt about that, virginity is something you give away, it can't be taken from you unwillingly.
But then there are men and women who are totally double standard, they want to marry a virgin even though they aren't one themselves. They think they can go around and have all the sex they want, yet they say they want to marry a virgin some day. They know that a virgin has integrity, discipline, character, self respect, and lots of respect for their future spouse. Yet they don't see any problem at all with the fact that they aren't virgins themselves. It is a such a double standard.
Anyway there is a surgery to get your hymen restored. I'm not a big fan of this surgery though since the VAST MAJORITY of women who get this surgery are only getting it to deceive their future husbands which is very wrong.
Why is it that sexually active people want a virgin but they can't see the blatantly obvious double standard? Then there are the idiots that think they can have all the sex they want and then when "they are ready to settle down" they look for someone with a past that is opposite of their own? How can they not see the idiotic logic behind that?
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posted on 02-10-2005 at 19:52 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Yes you can tell

Yes, you can tell if she is a virgin if she still has her hymen intact. If she doesnt, that dose not mean she is not. but if is intact then she is a virgin.
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posted on 02-11-2005 at 02:22 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator

their is a surgery now to restore the even an "intact" hymen does not always mean virgin....most women who get that sutgery are doing it for deceitful as I've already proven in my other letters oral and anal sex can cause a loss of viginity and they don't break the hymen.

I already posted the following under other postings, but if you don't think oral and anal sex is sex then here ya go--
Oral sex and Anal sex are still sex!

Alright, take a deep breath and say it with me: "Oral SEX."
Ever since the whole Bill Clinton/Monica Lewinsky thing, oral sex has been on everyone's lips (excuse the pun). The Clinton scandal raised a bunch of issues: Is oral sex considered "sex"? If you have oral sex, but "don't go all the way" (have vaginal intercourse), are you still a virgin? And is oral sex safe or can it pass infection? (More on that later . . .)
According to some recent studies, most teenagers define "sex" as vaginal intercourse they don't consider oral sex to be "sex." This isn't surprising, since that's how our culture has traditionally defined sex (which, incidentally, leaves out gays and lesbians altogether). So, there are a lot of self-proclaimed virgins out there who haven't "gone all the way," but will do "everything else but," including oral sex.
The abundance of these "technical virgins" definitely has a lot to do with how society views virginity as a really big deal, especially for girls. Whether you lose your virginity on prom night or on your wedding night, it's your first time and it'd better be perfect and with the "right" person
It is true that some people believe that an intact hymen is proof of a woman's virginity. But many people don't believe the condition of the hymen is adequate for defining virginity. They know that it's possible for a woman's hymen to become stretched open even if she's never had vaginal intercourse.
Many teens say that "having sex" is considered slutty, but "just fooling around" is no big deal. Whether you're having intercourse or "just" outercourse sex play that doesn't involve vaginal intercourse, like oral sex many of the same issues apply.
Despite what some people might think or say, oral sex does count because just as with intercourse, there can be emotional and physical consequences to consider.
When we talk about risk, it's often in reference to physical issues like sexually transmitted infections and pregnancy. But like intercourse, outercourse is sex play that also involves emotional risks. Will having oral sex change how you think about yourself and about your relationship? Will you expect more commitment or emotional closeness from your partner? Will you be doing it for the wrong reasons like, because you think everyone else is doing it or because your partner is putting pressure on you?
It's true that if someone is only having oral sex, there's no worry about getting pregnant. But the physical risk of contracting a sexually transmitted infection is there. Studies show that teenagers, and the majority of adults, rarely use protection a condom or dental dam when having oral sex. Why? Explanations range from, "What's the point?" to, "I don't think it's a high-risk activity."
The risk of contracting a sexually transmitted infection from oral sex is lower than it is from vaginal or anal intercourse but there's still a risk. There are only a few cases in which people may have contracted HIV through oral sex. But infections such as gonorrhea, syphilis, and herpes can be transmitted by having unprotected oral sex, too.
When it comes to oral sex, if you're not with a partner whom you know does not have an infection, then using protection during oral sex is key to reduce the risk of passing infection.
And all of this applies not only to teenagers, but also to everyone including the president of the United States.

how many believe that no matter what sexual acts you engage in, you can still consider yourself a virgin as long as a penis doesn't enter your vagina?
It seems that maybe the rules are loosening a bit on this one, with some people being convinced that oral sex is not sex. In other words, you can blow the entire football team, deal out a few thousand handjobs, receive oral until you're raw, and even go for the occasional anal sex, but still say you're a virgin, if it's only by the slimmest of technicalities?
So do you think that even if a girl has a five-some--- gives a blowjob to a one, whilst simultaneously giving hand jobs to two strangers while getting shagged up the butt by the fourth , she has the right to consider herself a virgin? Is there really anyone out there delusional enough to think that she is a virgin?
Let's be honest. Any time a penis is inserted into ANY bodily orifice, or genitals come into prolonged physical contact with someone's mouth, virginity is lost. Granted, it's not quite the same as going "all the way," but it IS sexual contact, there IS insertion of some kind or another, and there is, ideally anyway , some kind of orgasm.
If you still aren't convinced then please answer these questions yes or no.
Are lesbians who have been given oral sex till they are raw still virgins?
Are homo men who get it up the butt till they are bloody still virgins?
What we've managed to do to virginity would be like rewording the Ten Commandments so that everyone feels that they haven't really committed any sins.
There are those women that believe that if they perform oral sex on every boyfriend they've ever had, and let him get his fingers sticky every now and then, that they're still virgins. Now they may bleed a bit the first time they have sex, but are they really virgins?
They have experience. I mean if she just lies there the first time you insert your member, but can play the flute on your instrument like she's written symphonies, has she really maintained her purity? At what point do we draw the line? When has the line between purity and experience been crossed?
I personally don't think that a girl who can inhale a kielbasa like it's a toothpick necessarily connotes the virgin type. If virginity lies in a hole and is not about experience, then our society has a very warped definition of what virginity really is.
Believe it or not, there are gals out there who will let you get into their anal canals, but will still aver that they are virgins. Anal sex, as well as oral sex (despite what Clinton says), has the word "sex" attached to it because that's exactly what it is. And once you have sex, you are no longer a virgin. Case closed.
So these women are under the illusion that as long as their vaginas remain untouched by the almighty penis, they can still claim to be pure. Pure crud, that is. And if men seem to think that this is a viable argument, then they're just horny and have no qualms about taking the back way in.

If you have had oral or anal sex already and you are thinking That you might as well go and have all the sex you want because you are not a virgin anyway, please rethink this. You can become a recycled virgin at anytime. You can have a second chance at being a born again virgin. Start really saving yourself for marriage from this point on. Then when you get married 3 years, 4 year, 10 years from now you can look at your spouse on your wedding night and say "I've waited for you for X amount of years. I've shown discipline in my life I can be trusted" Now that is special.
In a world were 7 out of 10 married couples under the age of 40 have some sort of infidelity you need spouse you can trust. What you do now is very indicative of what anyone can expect of you in the future.
If you don't control your sexuallity now why would anyone believe you would in the future?

I myself am a 27 year old virgin now and I only date virgins or time proven born again virgins who have been completely abstinent a minimum of 2 years, It might have to be longer depending on their previous sexual experience.
Anyone can change but sometimes you have to prove you have changed.
Any Questions? feel free to email me
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posted on 05-31-2006 at 15:03 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Not stretched out lips

It's ridiculous that some men think 'stretched out lips' is an indicator that a women has slept around. Does a man who has frequent sex grow a larger penis? Women (The inner labia, lips, whatever you want to call them, grow during puberty.) Most inner lips extend out past the outer lips during puberty. (This is normal) Outer lips can also be puffy/cushiony, aka 'camel toe' This is all normal and has nothing to do with's genetic and what people are born with.

It shows all the variations.
There is no way to tell if a women is a virgin, except by what they tell you.
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